time for friends IV

the month of may has really been nothing short of supreme, because i finally completed my goal of meeting up with some of my dearest friends.

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first up, my bffs and i found time to meet up again, and on this occasion, on rather short notice, which was a miraculous feat by itself, given that the birthday boy, keryeong, has such crazy schedules.

we had dinner at a cafe he recommended, which was surprisingly well-received by us; this was already the second time that we were impressed by his choice of dinner venue, so it seems like he is getting more and more trendy, and i’m very proud of him, hahaha!

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and then it was meet-the-parents session for the new addition to our JC crew – boyfriend of our baby of the group, amantha; oh how time has flown, it seems like only yesterday when we attended her 21st birthday party, and look, now she’s all grown up, bringing her boyfriend to show us and all! *wipe tears of joy*

and speaking of birthday parties, D and i ended off the week with two birthday celebrations on the same day.

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D’s twin nephews turned one.

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twins are the best!

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though having an extra sister as a play mate is even better, of course!

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and then in the evening, we celebrated vincent’s 21st. YES, MY BABY BROTHER HAS TURNED 21ST, OMG!!! i know i have said this before, but yes, it’s probably time i stop calling him my baby brother already.

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see how even nemo looks so happy! though he’s like already 90 over years old in human years, and will probably find all these celebrations quite lame.

so yap, this is the last installation of my time for friends series. i hope i have proven my point that I HAVE FRIENDS, hahahaha!

here’s a recap of the other time for friends episodes!

time for friends I
time for friends II
time for friends III


photography challenge

this is inspired by pinterest, which is my current favourite time-filler app. (yes i know, i’m such a technology straggler, hahaha!)

30 photos for 30 days, each meeting a different theme.

i’ve played cheat a little though, collecting photos from the past too, or else i would NEVER finish this challenge like ever. and since i’m still keen on keeping my blog alive, so yes, anything to keep the updates going, man.

anyhoo, enough explanation, that’s so uncool. here we go!

day 1: self portrait

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blast from the past, where i still had long hair, and was feeling damn fly about it.

day 2: what you wore

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drop of sunshine.

day 3: clouds

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with rainbow too.

day 4: something green

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though it was rather accidental.

day 5: after dark

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singapore’s skyline.

day 6: obsession

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i am not a crazy cat lady.

day 7: changes to come

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new ride, scarlet.

day 8: routine

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caffeine is evil.

day 9: someone you love

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now and forever.

day 10: childhood memory

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only from hong kong.

day 11: something blue

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for purity, love, and fidelity.

day 12: sunset

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or maybe sunrise?

day 13: cannot live without

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my better half.

day 14: eyes

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here’s looking at you.

day 15: silhouette

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looking forward.

day 16: a good habit

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something to work on.

day 17: technology

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six years.

day 18: your shoes

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most expensive ones i have, and worth every cent.

day 19: something you want

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a holiday, way overdue.

day 20: in your bag

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day 21: faceless portrait

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look me in the eye.

day 22: dream

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from yesteryear.

day 23: patterns

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round and round.

day 24: animal

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leader of the pack.

day 25: strangers

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still my favourite photo after all these years.

day 26: close-up

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that hair.

day 27: celebration

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of a new life together.

day 28: flowers

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arrival of spring.

day 29: black and white

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the safest place in the world.

day 30: self portrait

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hello, may, here we go!

best wedding of the year

1 april 2017 was a happy day, not because i pulled off an especially clever trick on anyone, but because my very own brother got married!!!

well, technically, the couple has already tied the knot last december, when they signed the papers in an intimate family-and-close-friends-only ceremony.

but you know, for a traditional chinese family like mine, they are not considered officially married until a huge-ass party is thrown, where guests have to pay (in the form of ang baos) for an overpriced dinner, and go through a night typically lined with activities included in but not limited to the list below:

1. queuing for the photo booth (which usually costs an arm and a leg for the couple) during cocktail hour, taking snapshots with lame, trying-too-hard-to-be-funny props, resulting in stacks of over-saturated pictures which you have no idea what to do with immediately after;

2. watching the couple’s childhood photo montage before their march-in, trying desperately to find your face in at least one photo to assure yourself that you are in fact close enough with the couple to justify the big ang bao that you have just given;

3. making awkward small talk with relatives or friends whom you have not seen for ages (and probably won’t recognise on the street on any other day);

4. having a very filling-but-not-quite-satisfactory-for-some-reason eight-course dinner;

5. having too much of the free-flow wine and beer, and end up talking too much and laughing too loudly, making empty promises to meet up again with aforementioned long-lost relatives and friends, thus making it even more awkward the next time you meet them at yet, another wedding.

do all these sound familiar? hahahaha!

yes, that’s the usual singapore-style chinese wedding banquet, of which i’ve obviously become an expert by now. (i can even memorise each dish on the menu, in the exact order. just saying.)

having said all that, however, weddings can still be fun, especially if you are not just any dinner guest, but an active participant throughout the day, like a bridesmaid, or the sibling of the groom (or bride).

oh but not when you are the couple; parties are always only fun for the guests but never for the organiser, remember?

a wedding is freaking tiring for the couple. and expensive. and tedious. and too elaborate. you may say you want a “simple” wedding, but trust me, nothing is simpler than just signing the papers and going for a honeymoon with only your spouse, so take that option if you can. unless you come from a traditional chinese family like mine, in which case, please refer to my ranting above. good luck to you, my friend.

ANYWAY, that’s quite enough babbling.


it was naturally, a big day for all of us, since my brother is the first son of my parents, and grandson in the family.

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the word means happiness.

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so of course must spam.

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still spamming.

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even the apples have to be happy.

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nemo looking grumpy in his jacket; we should have put a “happiness” sticker on him too.

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trying to give him a pep-talk before the bridal party arrived.

“get your shit together, nemo, like literally! no shitting when everyone is here!”

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my personal photographer (i.e. le husband) snapping a shot of me, with a flower garland in my hair which in my opinion, made me look cgls. but he made me take it off eventually, because i wasn’t a bridesmaid, and flowers in hair are, according to him, only for bridesmaids, sigh. 😦

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my father’s photographer friend. my father seems to have many photographer friends; he got a different one for my wedding. both my brother and i actually had our own professional wedding photographers, but i guess you can never have too many photographers at a wedding.

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my brother looking swanky.

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and me here, looking dorky. yes, i walk like that now, inspired by my new favourite character, marion kelly, a recent internet sensation who first appeared in a bbc interview video with her dad (though her appearance was totally unplanned, and unexpected, in the cutest way).

if you haven’t seen this video, i say PLEASE GO GOOGLE IT NOW! and btw, it’s time you leave your cave, because it’s a big, big world out there, and it’s unhealthy that you are so cooped up in your own little space where cute videos apparently do not exist.

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here comes the bride.

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几 lomantic 一下.

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i’ve never seen bridesmaids so well-coordinated in their dressing, right down to their shoes. (and i believe the one with the beige-coloured heels was the maid-of-honour.)

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a sign of a lively home.

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“happiness” strikes again, haha.

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a private moment.

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not hard to see who were the more useful ones that day.

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every bride’s dream.

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the parents were the first to have their tea, thus kicking off the morning tea ceremony.

bla bla bla, fast forward to the end.

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with photos, of course!

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formal and boring.

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candid and (attempt to be) fun.

so that’s pretty much it for the morning. not as eventful at the groom’s place, since most parts of the action, with the gate-crash and all, happened at the bride’s side.

so let’s jump to the evening banquet.

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first glimpse of the bride.

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welcoming the new addition to the family.

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exclusive shot of the march-in rehearsal.

and now…a parting shot.

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our ootd.

sorry for the lack of photos at night, since D only came later with his own family (the photos in the morning were all taken by him), and i was too busy helping out with all the japalang stuff (you cannot imagine how much japalang stuff one has to take care of at a wedding).

all in all, it was a very happening day, and the family had a lot of fun. there was endless booze going around at the banquet (guarantee of a good party); the live band was good; my brother’s speech was sincere, funny, and tugged at my heartstrings. i missed the childhood photo montage personally done by my father, played before the march-in (where i was still busy with the japalang stuff), but i had seen it a few nights before, and i’m pretty sure i did appear in more than a few photos, so all is good, hahaha!

so yap, though my long prattling earlier about wedding ceremonies makes them sound very unnecessary, predictable, and dull, i believe many parents still insist on having one for their children because they are an opportunity to celebrate.

it’s a blessed occasion, a joyous excuse, to take time out of our busy schedule and monotonous daily life routine, to gather so as to celebrate love, kinship, and togetherness. it’s at such times that we are reminded of what is important in life.

while planning and executing a wedding takes a lot of time, effort, and money, i will say it’s totally worth it because at the end of the day, it is probably one of the most important milestones in life that can create countless fond memories for the whole family, and that alone, is priceless.

welcome to the family, lemin. and lawrance, i wish you all the happiness in the world, because you are the best brother anyone can ever ask for. love you guys. ❤

pieces of me

1 feb; anew

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2 feb; snug

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3 feb; LHR

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4 feb; wrapped

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5 feb; projector

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6 feb; family

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7 feb; ying yang

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8 feb; squad

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9 feb; meow

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10 feb; gold

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11 feb; adulting

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12 feb; summer

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13 feb; PER

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14 feb; take-off

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15 feb; rad

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16 feb; comfort

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17 feb; ICN

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18 feb; SAM

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19 feb; princess

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20 feb; just because

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21 feb; MUC

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22 feb; someone

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23 feb; deep thoughts

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24 feb; staple

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25 feb; chubs

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26 feb; history

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27 feb; hey you

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28 feb; marchin’ on

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